What NOT to say…

Did you know 10% of the people around you have experienced infertility? What does it look like to do no harm to these dear people?

Today I’m sharing my story in listening to the things people say – both personally but also from the pulpit – and I’d like to share my perspective on how those things feel. When we know better, we do better. And modulating our language around these topics can is a way to be present with people who are experiencing pain in their life journey.

If you’ve also experienced infertility, or being single when you’d rather be married, or other kinds of heartbreak, I want you to know that I love you. I don’t want you to walk alone. I didn’t want to walk alone either, but finding people I could trust not to go blabbing my story around was very difficult. Some folks are good at holding space for you – and others aren’t.

Please know I love you and want you to find the wholeness that’s right for you. Sending so much love your way! SOOOO MUCH LOVE!

God is near the brokenhearted! A bruised reed he will not break. A smoldering wick he will not snuff out! Remember, it’s possible to avoid doing harm to the people we care about by being aware of the exclusive and thoughtless language we use. God bless you!

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